Being a mom can be a trying job. Not every day is a good day, absolutely everyone has their bad days and it's normal. We are, after all, only human and it is totally natural for our emotions (and hormones!) to get the best of us.
Here are a couple blog posts for all of you hard working moms, you do a lot hard work every day for your beautiful children and it's nice to be reminded every once in awhile that all of that work does not go unnoticed. I know all of these posts helped me out one way or another during Weapon X's first year.
If you are a full time stay at home mom (or even part time, like myself) it can take it's toll. Especially when you constantly hear this from anyone who has never been in your shoes-"Oh how wonderful it must be to stay at home with the kids", "You must have so much free time on your hands", or "I could never stay home all day like you, I would be so bored", Please know there are people out there who have walked in your shoes and completely understand you. However, on the flip side there are some SAHM who pass judgment on those who chose to return to work full time. Ladies, this is not a debate, you should never shame another mother for her choice to return to the work force or stay at home, Every woman has the right to choose. Neither option is wrong. Let's stop judging each other and instead start helping each other.
Enjoy every moment? No. Live in every moment, they might not all be enjoyable. Parenting can be rewarding but it's also exhausting as hell. Parents and friends a like should read this and pass it along.
Be proud of your mommy body no mater what shape you are in. Don't ever feel pressured by society to get in shape. Making babies is hard work and it takes a toll on your body. Wear those stripes proudly! If you want to be come more fit and lose that baby weight be sure to do it on your own terms and be patient. However, if you decide to keep it that choice is yours and yours only.
From the same blog as above, however this was written by his wife.
Always remind yourself that you are a good mother regardless of how tidy your house is (or isn't). If you're a little unkempt (and your children are too), Dinner isn't on the table in time, you forget that load of laundry in the washer, or if nap time is for everyone not just the kids. Just remember that you are a good mother. Smiles and laughter are more comforting in any home over how spotless it is.
I leave you with this beautiful short film by Matt Bieler.
I am just over halfway through the year and still sticking to my vegan diet. While I know this diet is not for everyone I can say with great confidence that it is doing wonders for me.
Since going Vegan I have noticed:
- An increase in my energy levels.
- My sinuses have been clear and my allergies are much more controlled.
- Foods taste differently to me.
- Let's get descritpive here- I used to have a cosntant layer of mucous that coated my throat (yum) and was made worse whenever I ate dairy, that mucous layer is gone!
- I've lost over 25lbs. I was able to shed the remaining pregnancy weight I was carrying and then some.
- My skin is glowing and I am not the only one who has noticed!
And that's not all either. I am more in tune with what my body needs and definitely more conscious about what I put in it now! I am not saying this diet it better for you because it may not be and I am not here to tell you what you should and should not put into your body, that is totally your choice. But I hope that whatever you do, you are at least aware of what you are eating and where it comes from (Totally not a vegan is better than you diet rant I promise!) "Clean Eating" is huge right now and while I am not a huge fan of the term (it just sounds weird to me) I can get behind it's meaning. In a world full of Fast Food Chains and Grocery stores with aisles and aisles of Prepackaged foods filled with preservatives to keep it shelf stable for months, it's easy to slip into the convenience of it all. Eating simple whole foods and increasing your vegetable and fruit intake is more work for sure but it's definitely worth it. There are ways to make it easier for you! I don't always cook, wash, or chop fruits and vegetables every day. I have prep days to make it easier and less time consuming for me. I'll post more about that later if you are interested. I am by NO means an expert on this subject at all but I will share with you things I have learned along the way to make it easier! Take it or leave it, it doesn't matter to me!
All I can say for now is Veganism has been good to me and I am most definitely staying with this diet as it's benefits have been great for me overall. And in case you were wondering, yes I do miss cheese but honestly I only miss a good pizza! That's the one thing I crave but I won't cave on it (sorry cravings!)
As promised, here is a playlsit of artists inducted into the Rock n'Roll Hall of Fame this year.
A lot of these artists are some that I already enjoy, some of the other artists were just some I heard casually on the radio. But after watching the ceremony I gained a better respect for their music and will definitely be looking more into their catalogs.
As I sit here watching the 2014 Rock n'Roll Hall of Fame Induction I am reminded of my vast love and appreciation for music. While I am not 100% behind the Rock n'Roll Hall of Fame and their actions, I do respect a bit of what they are doing for the music community. They have provided a space for people who are fans of music on any level to visit, pay respect, and maybe even learn a new thing or two about music that they may not know before entering the doors. But this is not abut the Rock n'Roll Hall of Fame, this is about the ceremony and how it touched me, how it brought me back to a time in my life when music was evolving, and how that music was evolving me, turning me into the person I am today.
As the years go on, bands who influenced me growing up are becoming eligible for induction and each year I watch the induction ceremony broadcast on HBO. I am always in awe of each musician, I respect them all whether I listen to their music or not. This years inductees struck a special cord with me as an extremely influential band in my life was inducted, that band is Nirvana. While I don't necessarily think that if Kurt Cobain was alive today that he would have even bothered with the RRHF, as fame was inevitably what forced him to take his own life, you cannot deny their influence. An entire generation, an entire genre was influenced by them. Their induction was touching and I was greatly pleased when it came time for their performance that they had chosen to have the vocals for each song performed by female vocalists. This is the kind of thing Kurt would have definitely stood behind. The induction ceremony took place months ago, so the artist names were already known, however it was still a great surprise to hear them sing. I was not disappointed by any of them. While some argue that Courtney Love should have been up there performing I disagree. That would have been a horrible mistake. The artists chosen to sing, while seemingly random made perfect sense to me.
Joan Jett, an amazing and influential female legend (why isn't she in the RRHF already???) kicked it off with great rendition of Smells Like Teen Spirit and represented the before Nirvana, the influencing Nirvana if you will. Kim Gordon of Sonic Youth took the stage next and her incredible take on Aneurysm was very powerful. She was the During Nirvana, she was there with Kurt, friends with Kurt, friends with the band, and lived through that era of musical influence. St. Vincent was next and she was the perfect example of the Influenced by Nirvana. She is just like me (only she is a live performer and I am just a sing in the car/shower/all alone performer...), the same age, and no doubt her teenage years were likely parallel to mine, even if they were not I can tell that Nirvana influenced her career in some way as her performance of Lithium was quite moving. You could sense the respect and admiration in her performance. Lorde came out last and sang a chilling version of All Apologies. Sure, she wasn't even born until 2 years after Kurt took his life but she represented the After Nirvana, proving their influence on the masses and that their music stands the test of time, also proving their worth to stand next to all the other greats in the RRHF. A perfect end to a night of great performances and a perfect statement from Nirvana who, even with the loss of Kurt, still stand behind everything he ever believed in. Krist and Dave are keeping his spirit alive and well for generations to come.
If you have not watched the 2014 induction ceremony yet and are a fan of Nirvana I urge you to sit down and watch it all. Yes, it's 3 hours long but watch it all. Be inspired by all of the artists whether their music is something you enjoy or not, appreciate that they paved the way for others and that the influenced others. Music is beautiful, music is universal. Music can save you, music saved me and I will never forget it.
I will be dedicating next weeks Mix Tape Monday to the 2014 Rock n'Roll Hall of Fame inductees and you an bet your ass I will be listening to some 90's grunge and reminiscing on my youth. If you have a story about a band who influenced you in any way I'd love to hear it. <3